Google the words "marriage and affair" and you get more than 17 million variations on how to heal. Some statistics say that roughly 50 percent of married men will cheat, and at least 81 percent won't admit to it even after a woman asks that searing question. It was watching these statistics play out in his practice that prompted family counselor, rabbi and best-selling author Gary Neuman to embark on a two-year study of men who had sexual affairs and men who were faithful. Why doesn ' t he just not cheat? She's not responsible for stopping him.
I have been with my husband for 32 years and thought our marriage was happy and solid. Ten weeks ago, a woman contacted me and said she was in a relationship with him. He had told her we had separated. I am heartbroken, as are our adult daughters. I now know adultery has been a way of life for him for 25 years. He says he has always loved me and does now more than ever.
There are many reasons why married people cheat. Frustration in the marriage is one common trigger; the cheater may make several attempts to solve problems to no avail. Maybe they had second thoughts about getting married or they were jealous over the attention given to a new baby and neither had the skill set to communicate these feelings. Perhaps the straying spouse has childhood baggage — neglect, abuse, or a parent who cheated — that interferes with his or her ability to maintain a committed relationship.
How guilty would you feel if you cheated on your partner? The answer has a lot to do with the type of infidelity — and your gender. Men feel guiltier following sexual infidelity , while women feel guiltier after emotional transgression, a new study finds.